Have you ever caught yourself feeling:
Happy when someone you like texts you, and sad when you do not hear from them for a while
Proud that someone praised you, and small when someone criticised you
Down when it's raining, cold and windy, and high when the sun is shining, there is no wind, and it is warm?
I certainly did.... thankfully in the past. In each of these moments, I gave away my power. I allowed other people and external forces to decide how I felt.
Then I realised that it would be better to decide by myself and for myself how I feel.
This is true freedom
This is true happiness
This is true power
There are millions of ways in which I can make myself happy and high, why would I ever rely on others??? For example, I can strike up a conversation with ten people a day. Not only do I collect insights for my marketing research, but I also spark joy (and maybe even a little flirtation).
And .....if it's cold and windy, I can create my own sunshine and sit in front of the fireplace with a hot cup of tea.
Happiness begins within. Loving myself means choosing what makes me stronger every day. Since we spend most of our lives in our own minds, why not make that space a happy one?
And when life throws something unexpected my way, I pause and ask myself:
Does this feeling make me stronger?
If not, how can I turn it around?
What benefit or lesson can I draw from it?
This simple shift keeps me grounded, resilient, and free.